Tips for Transition Time Back to College
The transition time when young women go back and forth from home to college often causes feelings. As you return to school from holiday time at home, you may feel a little sad or
homesick. The most important point for you to know is that you are not alone. It's very common for young women in college to have these feelings when they transition back to college.
And it's understandable. For women, we highly value the relationships in our lives, and leaving those we care about at home are bound to bring up tender feelings. When a young woman feels this way,
it's easy to find a party as a "quick fix" but that's probably not going to give you what you need.
So, what can you do? Here's some tips to help when you're feeling this way:
- Think about ways you can connect to your family and friends. Send a note, pick up the phone, send an e-mail or a card that "says it all". Reach out and make contact
- Tell someone who you trust how you feel. Perhaps you have met someone that you're beginning to trust. Maybe it's time to share a little of yourself with them. You can take it step by step starting with, "Today is just not my best, and it's nice that we're spending time together."
- Keep your eye open to meet new friends. As we build our network of trustworthy friends, we strenghten ourself and our health as well. (Remenber: there's many young women on your campus who are feeling the transition too. Mostly, everyone "hides" it.)
- Journal. This is a wonderful way to share when the right person isn't around.
- Find a routine that you enjoy…a walk after class, dinner in the evening at 6:00pm, or working out in the gym on Saturdays. You can often meet people doing the same activity because they enjoy it too.
- If there's no one around, take this time doing things that nurture you, such as taking a nice long shower, listening to music that cheers you up, doing your nails, writing in your journal, or going to church.
- If you're lonely sometimes it helps to go places where there are other people alone too. For example, on a Friday night you could go to a book store that invites browsing or a gym to work out. On a Sunday or Sabbath you could go to church. Somehow that feels less lonely even if you go by yourself.
- Develop a relationship…with yourself. Cuddling up with your comforter and draw, sketch, read poetry or even create your own. You'll never go wrong learning to love hanging out with the person you have the most in common with…yourself.
If you are feeling suicidal or unsafe now or need immediate help: Dial 911 or the operator and just ask for help, or go to your nearest hospital Emergency Room. For less urgent problems, call your doctor, or school/ health clinic for an appropriate referral and help.
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